Another Suicide…Whom to Blame??

The Result of 11 grade was out just last day and today I heard a boy committed suicide because he failed the exam. Whom to blame? Education System, family, the boy himself or something else?

Wikipedia says ‘Over 90 % of people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death’’. It doesn’t need to be serious mental issues always, sometimes mild depression can be the reason for suicidal thoughts. Sometimes just the thought that makes you feel you cannot cope the overwhelming life situation can be a major cause behind suicidal thoughts or an attempt. Sometimes anxiety and impulsivity that leads an individual to not see any hope for the future can encourage him to think suicide as a solution. And sometimes, due to lack of proper guidance or due to lack of somebody listening to us, can simply be the reason behind the choice-suicide.


Psychology says, there can be various reasons behind the suicidal thought or attempt. Besides psychosis, depression, lack of coping capacity, impulsivity of an individual, genetic also is linked to suicidal thoughts. People who committed suicide or have suicidal thoughts are more likely to have a family history of suicide. Environment, Social cultural factors/status also play a role in wanting to end life.

Now the questions again rises: WHOM TO BLAME FOR?

According to registered cases in police department of Nepal, the latest data shows 13 people commit suicide every single day. And whom to blame for??
As a Psychology graduate, I can say, the major reason behind such cases is ‘The Negligence of Mental health or Mental Issue’’ (atleast here in our country, Nepal). We still stigmatize the mental issues and regard it as a taboo rather then consulting professionals. We still do not try to realize the triggering factor that can lead any individual to attempt suicide. We still try to hide any issue that we or our family members going through. We still do not listen to our loved ones about the sadness and problems they are going though. Most importantly, We ignore the fact that mental health is also an important aspects of overall well-being.


So, when the cases of suicidal thoughts and suicidal attempts increasing day by day, we from our side should start working for it. Here, MY request for all of us is:

1) We, as a family members, should start understanding our loved ones. If anybody at our home has psychological difficulty, we must make them consult the professional help. And if they are going through minor sadness of if anytime they talk about ending their life, we should be more careful about that case. We as family, can listen to them and try to make them cope with the ups and downs of life, rather then making their life more miserable by blaming. And if our loved ones time and again talk about ending life or is depressed or seen as having low emotional coping capacity, we should seek the professional help as soon as possible.

2) We, as a friend, should start understanding them and giving proper advices. If we have our friends finding difficulty to cope up with problems, we can be the initial help providers. Listening to them and giving proper guidance and motivating them can be the first step to help them.

3) We, as School/Colleges, should start thinking about students mentality and deal with them accordingly rather than from their academic marks. School, colleges are one of the major places where an individual spends their time. If we can give professional and personal help from the institution, it will be much easier for the individual to realize the suicidal triggering factor and understand the way out. We also can arrange classes to make them be more able to cope with emotional vulnerability. We can work to increase their mental well-being.

4) We, as a country, must start giving priority to Mental Well-being and health. We should raise more awareness about mental issues and its effects. We should be more responsible to the deaths of the individuals and start bringing plans and policies to stop this.

5) We, as indiciduals,should start thinking and loving our life more. We must think that our life is also attached to the lives of our loved and dear ones. Since, committing suicide is not the end of the .problems or can never be the ultimate life solution. We should rather share the problem and seek help. We should know there are loads of people to love and understand us.
Hence, WE, in the form of many responsible members, are all to BLAME FOR those cases that are registered as SUICIDAL cases each day.

I, as a Psychology graduate and responsible member of the society, will take responsibility of this. I will give my best to minimize this major issue and encourage people to have proper mental well-being. Will you do the same?


(The writer is the Psychology graduate and social activist. She is also the founder and coordinator of team PsychBigyaan)

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